How aunties abused us as children – Male celebrities

Two male social media celebrities have narrated how they were allegedly sexually abused by older women at childhood as controversy surrounding old tweets by singer Simisola Kosoko, popularly known as Simi, continues to generate debate on social media.

They lamented what they described as the alarming rate of molestation of male children by adult women.

Skit maker, Olamide Ogunleye, aka Oluwadolarz, narrated how he was allegedly sexually abused at age six by a female neighbour he identified as Aunty Ramota.

File Copy: Skitmaker Oluwadolarz

In a video shared on his Instagram page, Oluwadolarz said he was mistreated every time he came home from school to the house where he lived with his grandmother during his childhood.

He explained that the incident left him with resentment and emotional scars that affected his trust and relationships as he grew older.

He said, “When I was six, yes, I was six years old. Then, I was living with my grandma, my mum was still in a nursing school then, so I was living with my grandma.

“So, whenever I came back, Ramota was always at home. She’s only the one at home, like she’s always at home. And whenever I came back from school, Ramota would take me to the backyard of our house and do all sorts. From leaking to… it’s crazy.”

He recalled that the abuse went on for a year, describing how he was too young to understand what was happening and had no one to confide in.

He said the trauma damaged his sexual life and left memories that remained vivid even today.

“I’m saying it because I’m beginning to realise that it’s something that could have messed up my life. I think it actually did mess up my life. Because it messed up my sex life, messed up a lot of things about me that I can’t even say here. The damage that that stuff causes or brings to one’s life is unforgettable. It’s almost unsolvable. But as for you, Ramota, it won’t be better for you,” he said.

Oluwadolarz noted that when he eventually told his guardians, they only issued a warning to the perpetrator rather than seeking justice.

Also sharing his experience, media personality Abisoye Olukoya Michael, popularly known as Oyemykke, narrated how he was abused at the age of four by a 30‑year‑old family acquaintance called Aunty Saida.

Influencer Oyemykke…Credit: MyNewsGH

Also, media personality, Abisoye Olukoya, also known as Oyemykke, in an Instagram video, recounted how he was allegedly sexually molested as a child.

He explained that the abuse began when he was left in the woman’s care and continued several times, leaving him with lasting emotional scars.

According to him, the incident robbed him of his innocence and shaped his early life in ways that he was only now able to speak about publicly.

Oyemykke disclosed that the abuse started with inappropriate touching and later escalated.

“I was ‘graped’ by four different women in my childhood. I was disvirgined by an older woman. In fact, I was repeatedly graped until I was 12. That’s one of the reasons I’m very hyper‑sexual.

“I speak to therapists till today. Aunty Saida was the first to ‘grape’ me at the age of four. She molested me repeatedly, playing with my tiny manhood. Aunty Saida was about 28 to 30 years old then, I was four,” he said.

Simi had sparked controversy following her comments on social media about rape, saying that men should stop raping women.

File: Afrobeat star, Simisola Kosoko

She suggested that rapists should be castrated, claiming that “almost every woman she knows has been sexually assaulted.”

When challenged by a user about women who make false rape claims, Simi shut down the user, which trigerred an outrage.

The Duduke crooner’s reactions started after a TikTok user, Mirabel, claimed that she was raped in her apartment by a stranger.

Mirabel was later discovered to have lied as Twitter users asked Simi to apologise.

Shortly afterwards, screenshots of old tweets made by the singer and believed to be from 2012 and 2013 began circulating.

Among them were posts appearing to reference children at her mother’s daycare, including comments such as “love to kiss d kids at my mum’s daycare – they’re super adorable and I’m crazy abt ’em” and “Why this four year old boy tryna put hand inside ma shet????? Ogbeni wash it oh!”, among others.

The resurfacing of the old tweets drew intense criticism from some social media users, who interpreted them as inappropriate.

Oyemykke faulted the singer for not taking accountability, saying her words showed behaviours that cause harm even if she did not act on them, urging her to tender a public apology instead of being defensive.

“Simi, you said that the kid, a four-year-old, was sexualising you. You wrote those things. And instead of coming outside to apologise, you’re defending your acts, and this is where the issue is. You need to apologise and let this entire situation go down,” Oyemykke said.

Following the outcry on social media, the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency said it had referred the allegations to the Commissioner of Police for preliminary investigation.

The Executive Secretary of the agency, Lola Vivour-Adeniyi said the agency could not ignore the allegations.

She urged anyone affected to come forward to give their statement.

Also, the Director General of the National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons, Binta Bello, ordered  a full-scale investigation into the allegations.

The spokesman for NAPTIP, Vincent Adekoye, confirmed this to Saturday PUNCH, disclosing that the agency was expecting petitions from alleged victims of the abuse.

“In the coming days we are expecting people to come to make complaints as victims, but for now we won’t be able to tell you these are the persons that have shown up. Don’t forget that you are presumed innocent until proven otherwise,” Adekoye said.

Speaking with Saturday PUNCH, the Lagos State Commissioner of Police, Moshood Jimoh confirmed that the case was being referred to the command for investigation.

“I learnt that they (Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency) are bringing the matter to us, so we are waiting for them. Once they bring the matter, we will start an investigation,” he said.

When asked if the singer would be invited for questioning, the commissioner said the police would wait till the case was formally reported at the command before considering such action.

Rights activists demand probe

Commenting on the issue, the founder and Executive Director, Boys Aid Network, Miss Olufunke Oyinlola, called for a clear, professional and time-bound investigation into the allegations.

“Abuse of boys, particularly by women, is often overlooked or underreported for several reasons. There is a strong societal belief that boys cannot be victims of sexual abuse. For a long time, women have been seen as the only gender capable of being abused, and male rape was not formally recognised in Nigerian law until the Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Act (VAPPA) 2015,” Oyinlola said.

She called on the police to invite Simi for questioning, saying this would allow for transparency and fairness, and also reinforce public confidence in the police.

On her part, the Chief Operating Officer of DOHS Care Foundation, Mrs Ololade Ajayi, lamented that sexual abuse involving male children often goes underreported because victims fear ridicule or dismissal.

According to her, society sometimes trivialises such experiences, with some people even praising young boys involved with older women rather than recognising them as victims.

“It is important for male victims of sexual violence to also speak out. Abuse should never be normalised, whether the victim is male or female,” she said.

She urged society to take all cases of sexual abuse seriously and ensure that victims are supported rather than silenced.