Would you flirt at a funeral, kiss in a restaurant, or cry in a job interview? Study reveals the most inappropriate behaviours in common social situations

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Whether it's a wedding or a fitness class, most social situations come with a set of unwritten rules about what behaviour is appropriate.

However, as anyone who has encountered a 'headphone dodger' will know, these rules often vary from person to person. 

Now, scientists have surveyed over 25,000 people around the world to uncover the most common social norms across 10 situations. 

This includes the behaviours we deem suitable in funerals, job interviews, parties, and at work. 

'This study uncovers a global grammar of everyday norms,' explained the Mälardalen University researchers.

'We find striking similarities in what people around the world frown upon, with norms varying far more across situations than across societies.'

So, would you flirt at a funeral, cry at a job interview, or sing in a busy restaurant? 

Scroll down to see how your social norms stack up. 

Scientists have surveyed over 25,000 people around the world to uncover the most common social norms across 10 situations. Dark blue indicates a behaviour is seen as appropriate, yellow is seen as inappropriate

From abortion to homosexuality, several previous studies have analysed how views towards contentious issues vary around the world. 

However, until now, there has been little research on the social norms in more mundane situations. 

Writing in their study, published in Communications Psychology, the researchers, led by Kimmo Eriksson, explained: 'This focus on mundane situations aligns with an emerging trend in moral psychology to move beyond classic moral dilemmas and study the more common conflicts people face in their daily lives.'

To get to the bottom of it, the researchers recruited 25,422 participants across 90 societies around the world. 

The participants were asked about their views on the appropriateness of 15 behaviours across 10 common situations. 

The behaviours were: argue, laugh, curse, kiss, cry, sing, talk, flirt, listen to headphones, read newspaper, bargain, eat, rest, shout in anger, and use a mobile phone. 

Meanwhile, the situations were: a funeral, in the library, at the workplace, in a job interview, in a restaurant, in a public park, on a city sidewalk, on a bus, at the movies, and at a party.

The results revealed 'extremely high' cross–cultural agreement on which behaviours are acceptable in these situations. 

Would you flirt at a funeral, cry at a job interview, or sing in a busy restaurant? (stock image)

The most inappropriate behaviours in social situations

  • Job interview: Kissing
  • Funeral: Laughing
  • Library: Shouting
  • Movies: Shouting
  • Workplace: Kissing
  • Bus: Shouting
  • Restaurant: Shouting
  • Sidewalk: Shouting
  • Party: Shouting
  • Public park: Cursing 

In a job interview, the only behaviour deemed appropriate was talking, while crying was the only option seen as suitable at a funeral. 

In a library, participants said it was inappropriate to shout, sing, or argue. 

And musical fans will be disappointed to hear that singing was also frowned upon in the cinema – along with arguing and shouting. 

At work, eating and talking were seen as the most acceptable behaviours, while cursing and kissing were deemd inappropriate by most. 

On the bus, most participants said it was fine to talk, use your mobile phone, read a newspaper, listen on headphones, and rest. 

Over in a busy restaurant, meanwhile, participants said it would be inappropriate to shout or curse. 

'It is generally agreed that kissing in a job interview elicits concerns about vulgarity, that laughing out loud in the library elicits concerns about inconsiderateness, and that reading the newspaper at the movies elicits concerns about lacking sense,' the researchers added. 

The researchers hope the findings will highlight how social norms vary around the world, and over time.

'Everyday norms are not static,' they concluded. 

'They appear to be changing in consistent ways globally, suggesting a shared trajectory of cultural evolution.

'Our findings provide insights into the interplay of human universals and cultural differences that shape social life across the globe.'

TOP 43 REASONS MEN ARE STILL SINGLE

Scientists led by Menelaos Apostolou from the University of Nicosia in Cyprus anonymously asked men on Reddit why they thought they were still single.

They analysed more than 6,700 comments and revealed the top 43 reasons why people are unable to find a partner.

Here is the complete list —

  1. Poor looks (including baldness, and short stature)
  2. Low self-esteem/confidence 
  3. Low effort 
  4. Not interested in relationships 
  5. Poor flirting skills 
  6. Introverted 
  7. Recently broke up 
  8. Bad experiences from previous relationships 
  9. No available women 
  10. Overweight 
  11. Different priorities 
  12. Shyness
  13. Too picky 
  14. Anxiety 
  15. Lack of time 
  16. Social awkward 
  17. Enjoying being single 
  18. Depression 
  19. Poor character 
  20. Difficult to find women to match 
  21. Poor mental health
  22. Lack of achievements 
  23. Stuck with one girl 
  24. Lack of social skills 
  25. Have not got over previous relationship 
  26. Don’t know how to start a relationship 
  27. Lack of money 
  28. I do not trust women 
  29. Not picking up clues of interest
  30. Sexual issue 
  31. Fear of relationships 
  32. 'I am not interesting'
  33. Fear of rejection 
  34. 'I will not be a good partner' 
  35. Attracted to the wrong women
  36. Homosexual 
  37. Given up
  38. Is not worth the effort 
  39. Fear of commitment 
  40. Health — disability issue
  41. Difficult to keep a relationship 
  42. Addictions
  43. Other 
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